These are comments by SecondBeach, John, and Mike on the post “On Women and Casual Sex – Part II: Flings, One Night Stands and Same Night Lays“.
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SecondBeach said:
“As a woman who digs good casual sex but is wary of it because it’s easy to have bad casual sex, I think this article is pretty spot on. Because sex is hotter with good connection. Because you can do wilder things with someone you trust. Because people won’t automatically know what gets the other off and it’s easier to communicate with someone you’ve built a connection with. My best casual sex has been after a few hours of flirtatious bar conversation and a friendly chat about sexual preferences (act? position? kinks?) arm in arm while wandering back to my/their place. Could not have been clearer that we were in it for the night, but it was all the more enjoyable because we took the time to get to know each other a little and build a trust. Because we cared about each other a little. For the night.”
John responded:
“Its true, but I really wondering, is there really a guy who would ask a woman directly, ‘Hey do you want to have sex with me?’ for casual sex? I think although most guys more into casual sex because it have less risk for men (like pregnancy, better chance orgasm, no slut shaming), we guys also want to know about our partner first and see if we are clicked. If a guy want to have sex directly without having to know each other, he would have gone to prostitute.
“I think casual sex for women and men are not really different, we both want to have attraction and connection first, then sex. Honestly, I don’t want to have casual sex with woman if she doesn’t have a sexual attraction for me at all. Yes, we could build that connection later trough conversation, but initial attraction for me is a must for a casual sex. And I want my casual partner have that attraction towards me too. I think although connection is needed for women, physical aspects also matter. If you look good, smells good, groom good, dress good, you would have easier time building connection with women. At least if you take care of yourself, you would look more confident, and women would think you respect yourself, and more likely to respect her. So besides connection and respect, I think men appearance is really matter for casual sex.”
Mike added:
“I once met a girl in a club, then went back to her place. We were naked and making out on her bed, and I said, ‘I want to fuck you, I’m going to find my condoms.’ Then I went looking for my wallet in the mess of clothes on her floor. She sat up in bed, looked at me and said, ’Oh my god, you know exactly what to do! That’s so hot!’”
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